Saying no is probably one of the biggest things people struggle with. It impacts how you live your life AND how you run your business.

Most of us have an issue with it because we don’t want to disappoint others, which really translates into not wanting to be a bad person.

Most of us have been taught to put our self-worth on how others view us instead of strengthening a strong sense of self instead.

This translates into people pleasing and not taking a stand for our own needs.

It doesn’t mean we can’t or shouldn’t help other people, but not at the cost of our own spiritual, mental, emotional and physical health.

I am a firm believer in filling up our own cups first. I’m convinced it’s as important as breathing. Meaning we take care of ourselves – we put our own needs and wants first. Because if we don’t, not only will we not be living a healthy and thriving life, we won’t be able to help other people anyway. Either physically because of our health or emotionally because we’re so drained.

And in business how does it show-up? Oh it’s a doozy.

Taking on projects or work we don’t really want to be doing.

OR better yet “ghosting” people because we’re too afraid to say no.

Where that beauty shows-up is in your OWN sales calls. You’re afraid to say no in your own life and business because of how it feels, and you therefore avoid a situation where someone else can say no to you.

Translation – business growth stalls.

You are in sales if you’re in business for yourself and therefore must work through this. See my blog post from a few weeks ago on “Sales isn’t something you do to someone, it’s…”

So we want to start looking at how we’re making decisions around our time. Sure compromise is needed sometimes, and also making an extra effort, but if you are over-scheduled and this has become a pattern then something else is going on.

It’s especially prevalent over the holidays.

So tune into what you really need as we’re bombarded with extra to do’s, and if you really want to go deeper in terms of addressing the guilt behind the decisions we’re making around our time, then tune into our latest podcast that dropped this morning – where we address this and give you permission to let. it. go.


I will be sharing more strategies on reducing overwhelm that you can use during the holidays – and beyond – during a live today on Instagram and my Facebook business page at 12 pm pacific.

Hope to see you there and have a beautiful weekend!

Chris, xo